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Reclaiming the bonds
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"cast down but not destroyed!" ~2 Corinthians 4:9b (KJV) |
| Dee411 Newsletter | May 15, 2006 / Volume 1, Issue 6 / Subscribers: 104 | |
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In this issue: last week's poll... "Forgive and forget." This advice is
rendered, again and again and again. Is it truly possible to forgive
without forgetting? What say you?
Results: Yes = 0% (0 votes)
I agree with voter no. 1. Contrary to popular opinion, forgiveness is not a favor to the one who has wronged us, but a gift we give ourselves. Through study, faith, prayer, and practice, I've come to realize that in order to attain healing or peace ... forgetting is a must. Ah but I'm getting ahead of myself. (See Life Lessons below) |
Welcome to the Mother's Day issue
of Dee411 Newsletter. Once again I was sidelined by production issues.
This time, it was lack of access to the Internet. Now I see why most publications are usually a month ahead.
Ah well, they say that difficulties are overcome by perseverance and that perseverance builds character. I've been told that I'm quite a character, so it must be working! To the newcomers, "I'm so glad you've joined us." To the not so newcomers, "I gosh darned tickled pink that you're back." So even though it's two days late and all the festivities are over, it would be entirely remiss of me not to wish those of you who are mothers (and those of you who are fathers who have had to assume that role) a Happy Mother's day. So please take a moment to enjoy the flowers and my hastily scripted prose below--and the rest of the newsletter too... LOL. Peace, |
RECOMMENDED READING Daddy's Girl by Linda D. Wattley Innocence Lost Leona Tillard is one special little lady. At a young age, her mother mysteriously vanishes, and she's left with her strength and faith to help get her through. Forced to grow up overnight, Leona becomes the caregiver -- in more ways than one. Years pass, drama unfolds and Leona searches for the answers to her challenges and struggles. Not understanding her role in life she unknowingly becomes a walking time bomb, getting ready to deal with a truth that cannot be avoided.
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Endings and New Beginnings I attended two funerals this year, (one of which you can read about here) and was privy to three others but not close enough to attend. Although logically I know it's a path of life, to begin and then to end, my emotional side says that it was five funerals too many. Funerals signal an end to one phase
of our lives and the beginning of another, much like the approaching
yearend. As you assess the past year and plan your goals for
the New Year, it's a good time to examine the choices or decisions, if
you will, that have held sway in your life. Ask yourself:
D.S. White is the author of Age is Just a Number (AIJAN). The second edition of AIJAN will be available June 1, 2006. Pre-orders are available at Amazon, ATWC Books, Barnes and Noble, or The Book ClubHouse (utilize the discount code housecode at checkout to receive an additional 10% off until May 31, 2006.) |
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One
is responsible to life: It is the small beacon
in that terrifying darkness from which we come and to which we shall
return.
--James Baldwin, 1962
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D.S.
White Via email: Okay, so
you've forgiven, and forgotten. You've let the one who has
wronged you know that you've moved on and that the bitterness of
unforgiveness no longer has the power to control your life.
Or maybe you haven't made any such grand gesture. You've
just let it go and it's visible in your interaction with the party who
has wronged you.
Said party now feels comfortable enough to resume phone calls, emails, and meetings. Should you allow them to waltz back in? What say you? RELATED LINKS NEWSLETTER SAMPLES |
 May
you bloom in and out of season as you spread your sweet fragrance to
enhance the lives of your children. May
your love be as gentle as a lily,
as firm as its stalk and as beautiful as its center--may you be blessed
today and
always.
If I had a
daughter I would tell her to understand she is a gift from God. I would
instill
that in her from the day she is born. There would be no competition
between us
as far as winning daddy’s affections or proving I am the
better female. I would
tell her there was a time it was considered a curse to have a daughter
verses
having a son. But that time is over because now the female child can be
adored,
respected and looked upon as intelligent. I would tell
her to always know she is a unique creation of God and God is something
or
someone deep in her heart. I would teach her to value this invisible
presence
at all times and to shield it from the temptations of the world. First
and
foremost she must always understand that boys are totally different
than girls
in more ways than just physical. I would let her know each year of her
life
requires a different understanding of the male species. First of all,
the boy is a hunter and he thrives to satisfy his senses. It is human
nature
for him to desire to devour her body but it does not mean you should
surrender
it to him, especially when God is your first love. I would teach her to
understand it is normal to feel sensations in her distinguished female
areas of
her body that the male yearns to touch and explore. But understand this
is
human nature. This urgency is the continuation of the human species.
Know
precious daughter it is not your responsibility to give your body away
for this
natural process. The alluring of the eyes of the beholder and his
strong desire
to have you is no different than what happens with the animals in the
jungle.
It is called mating to bring forth life. True, it
appears romantic and magical when you read about it or watch it on TV.
This is
just a smoke screen to sedate you as your soul, spirit and relationship
with
God is compromised for a moment of lustful fulfillment. Once the sperm
is
released, things are never the same because God was not in it and He
was put on
hold and your self-value is dropped. Before you take off those panties,
remember you are not alone. God is there and hoping He is chosen over
satisfying the lusts of the flesh of another. Once you have
allowed yourself to become naked before the eyes of a male, you risk
the chance
of being an instrument for sexual pleasure and never seen as a flower
again.
The boys share their experiences with one another as though their
experience
was a just reward for all their efforts for cunning you into his bed.
Virginity
is special for it represents oneness with God. God has something for
you when
you wait for your mate and trust Him to choose him for you. There are other
things going on in life for God’s children beside sweating
between sheets.
There is much to be done in bringing light into a world where God was
not
considered instead of sex. The outcome is greed, lust, drugs, sexual
abuse and
hate. All just because one girl, someone’s daughter did not
value herself as a
child of God. Honor yourself. See the opposite sex as a means to
exercise
spiritual truth not sexual arousal for the outcome is illegitimate
children and
a cry for the father to be in their lives. Go in to the world knowing
God is
with you always. If only someone had told them. Love is real. It is not based on being wanted
and needed. It is based on
a silent knowing that together we can make a difference in this
world. My
daughter, your most important homework assignment is finding out whom
or what
God is and living it each day of your life.
------ Linda D. Wattley is the author of Daddy's Girl (pictured above) and a principal of Angel Press Publishing. |
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| RESOURCES American Art Therapy Association 888-290-0878 info@arttherapy.org Refers you to the
association's chapter in your state, which will provide the names of
local therapists.
American Association of Pastoral Counselors 703-385-6967 info@aapc.org Provides online
listing of pastoral counseling centers accredited by the association
that offer counseling and psychotherapy services. Also gives phone
referrals to pastoral counselors in private practice and other settings.
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